5 REASONS WHY PEOPLE CHEAT IN A RELATIONSHIP + SOLUTIONS

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It is so unfortunate that another celebrity marriage hit the rocks again and is gaining prominence this early year. It is the marriage of popular glitz and glamour baby, Stephanie Coker. I was reading through a blogger support platform and the entire story was being dissected. This made me ask the important question - WHY DO MEN CHEAT? Jay-Z confessed to have cheated on Beyonce. A lady who many men are dying to just touch talk-less of having as wife. We can't even start mentioning names. It would be exhausting. We won't just be looking at why men cheat but why women cheat as well. Why do people cheat in a relationship?


1. LACK OF SEXUAL SATISFACTION

This was the answer I got when I asked a guy why men cheat, stating all of the prominent examples. When people are not sexually satisfied in a relationship, they opt for the next available option. Pornography has indeed spoilt so many men and women that they day dream of getting the same amount of satisfaction and practicing the same sex styles they see in pornographic videos which are almost impossible when a partner isn't absolutely flexible. We could even see the case of sex come up in the Nigerian Series 'THIS IS IT'. This is to state how important sex can be to different people. And in a world where pre-marital sex is now seen as a norm, people want sex in their relationships even when they are not married. And what if the partner is waiting till marriage? That becomes an issue. The partner focuses his sexual desires somewhere else. What of the case of being a one minute person who can't go on for too long? Or when you aren't just a sexual person and the other person is all about sex? These can make people cheat in a relationship.

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2. LACK OF ATTENTION

This is one major reason why women cheat and another reason why men cheat. When a person isn't getting all the needed attention from the partner, such a person can be pushed to cheat. The partner hardly replies chats, hardly calls, doesn't focus on them when they meet physically, all these are a major turn off and can be very tiring and lead to one cheating.

3. LACK OF COMMUNICATION

Communication is very key in a relationship. When there is no established and secure communication in the relationship, everything begins to turn upside down and an interest begins to develop in someone else who is always there to talk to. The communication gap in a relationship  can lead to many people cheating.

4. LACK OF FULFILLED EXPECTATIONS

Not sexual expectations but important expectations we all have when we decide to go into a relationship. When these various expectations are not met, people tend to get angry and frustrated and therefore look somewhere else. Some men expect their women to be able to cook, clean and do domestic chores even before marriage. Some ladies expect their men to be able to take care of their material needs and more. When these needs are not met, the next available person becomes attractive. In marriage, your spouse also has expectations that they desire to be met.

5. LUST/GREEDINESS

You wonder why men with very beautiful wives still cheat on them with the house help? Or why women with rich and handsome husbands still cheat on them with their drivers and younger boys? It all balls down to lust and greediness. Too many people have it all in their relationship but just feel like tasting something else or better still, something new. Their wives have the biggest bum and breasts coupled with the finest face but they go for the girl with flat bum and little or no breast and a face that is not so presentable while the woman has a husband with all the pacs in the world and a very handsome face but prefers the gate-man. It could be their village people at work though but lets just call it lust and greediness.

One other reason why people tend to cheat is because they liked someone else. This is an unfortunate circumstance but almost nothing can be done about it when it happens. The partner might not be the problem but the person just happened to fall in love with someone else and they desire to be with that new person no matter the total satisfaction they get from their partner. In this situation, its best to leave such relationship but if its a marriage, its time to put your war room skills to good use.

EMETE

3 comments:

  1. Cheating and domestic violence are two behaviours I cannot stand at all! Whilst I understand feeling ignored, let down or unfulfilled by your partner, cheating is by no means to the answer! Speak to them, scream at them, spend more time with them, do everything to make them understand your feelings, even end the relationship if it's simply not working but don't cheat!

    Madeline

    www.madelinewilsonojo.com

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    1. You couldn't have said it any better, madeline. Point well made!

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  2. Actually I will agree that lack of satisfied sex can make a man or woman to cheat. Also, cheating is a psychology problem, most women satisfies their men with sex, but they still go out to have sex outside.

    If any body wants to stop cheating, let him or her work on them selves, self discipline is key.

    www.YouTube.com/templesammy

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